“…the nurse has me stand up and
show the policeman the scar on my chest. Without hesitation, I tell him it was
an accident; which it was – Mother never meant to stab me. I cry as I spill my
guts, telling them Mother punishes me because I am bad”
(Pelzer, D. 1995, 10).
Years ago I read a book titled A Child Called “It”, which was written by Dave Pelzer. The book chronicled the author’s life growing up under serve abusive conditions that had originally started out as physical discipline to correct his behaviour. Years after, I still recall the book and the accounts that were detailed and I think about how fine a line physical discipline and physical abuse are, especially in the eyes of the child.
If pain is inflicted in a moment of anger by a person of authority over a child, the force used in corporal punishment is likely to exceed what is reasonable. However, if corporal punishment to correct behaviour is used with no feelings of anger attached, it is possible to suggest that force be reasonable.
Growing up from a Caribbean background physical discipline by way of spanking was the norm. It was used to correct my behaviour which, in retrospect, I think my parents were justified for using.
I mentioned in my first post that the difference between physical discipline and physical abuse is the “reasonable force” that is used to cause pain. As mentioned, Canada’s law continues to find corporal punishment on children legal. Yet, at the centre of the debate of corporal punishment is the term “reasonable”, which continues to remain ambiguous. Fortunately, where the lines of “reasonable” become blurred, Canada’s legal system is able to use case law and judicial discretion to determine if corporal punishment was exceeded into an unacceptable act of abuse.